Reconciliation

“He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life,
and I will raise him up at the last day”

John 6:54

The Sacrament of Reconciliation The Sacrament of Reconciliation celebrates the forgiveness and mercy of God as we, as sinners, humbly acknowledge and confess our sins. Contact Us

Along with Anointing of the Sick, The Sacrament of Reconciliation is a sacrament of healing.

At times, we all fall short of our potential as people to love and care and respect others.  Pope Francis himself summarized who he is to the world in a profoundly simple phrase: “I am a sinner”.  A soul weighed down with the burden of sin finds great relief in the pardoning of Jesus. This awe-filled and wonderful sacrament is described by Pope Francis as a gift:

…in Confession we ask for forgiveness from Jesus. Forgiveness is not the fruit of our own efforts but rather a gift, it is a gift of the Holy Spirit who fills us with the wellspring of mercy and of grace that flows unceasingly from the open heart of the Crucified and Risen Christ.

Pope Francis goes on to picture this sacrament as a “warm embrace” in the infinite mercy of the Father.

Currently the healing Sacrament of Reconciliation is offered every Saturday from 4-4:30 in the church or by appointment with the pastor at 503-222-2055.

First Reconciliation Prep Classes for Children

The Sacrament of Reconciliation is presented to children at the “age of reason”, seven years of age or grade 2. Children at this age are invited to begin their preparation to receive this sacrament. Classes are taught for four weeks in the fall for both children and parents.  Please refer to the Formation Sacraments for children page for more information.

Confession Guide

The following are resources for preparing for and participating in the Sacrament of Reconciliation.  The first is an Examination of Conscience based on the Ten Commandments which helps prepare one for moving into a heart-felt confession of one’s failings in various areas of one’s life.  The second is a helpful Guide to going to the sacrament of Reconciliation, and the third is a helpful prayer to center oneself spiritually before entering the sacrament.

Examination of Conscience

1. I am the Lord your God. You shall not have strange gods before me.
  • Do I give God time every day in prayer?
  • Do I seek to love Him with my whole heart?
  • Have I been involved with superstitious practices or have I been involved with the occult?
  • Do I seek to surrender myself to God´s word as taught by the Church?
  • Have I ever received communion in the state of mortal sin?
  • Have I ever deliberately told a lie in Confession or have I withheld a mortal sin from the priest in Confession?
  • Are there other “gods” in my life? Money, Security, Power, People, etc.?

 

2. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.
  • Have I used God´s name in vain: lightly or carelessly?
  • Have I been angry with God?
  • Have I wished evil upon any other person?
  • Have I insulted a sacred person or abused a sacred object?

 

3. Remember to keep holy the Lord´s Day.
  • Have I deliberately missed Mass on Sundays or Holy Days of Obligation?
  • Have I tried to observe Sunday as a family day and a day of rest?
  • Do I do needless work on Sunday?

 

4. Honor your father and your mother.
  • Do I honor and obey my parents?
  • Have I neglected my duties to my spouse and children?
  • Have I given my family good religious example?
  • Do I try to bring peace into my home life?
  • Do I care for my aged and infirm relatives?

 

5. You shall not kill.
  • Have I had an abortion or encouraged or helped anyone to have an abortion?
  • Have I physically harmed anyone?
  • Have I abused alcohol or drugs?
  • Did I give scandal to anyone, thereby leading him or her into sin?
  • Have I been angry or resentful?
  • Have I harbored hatred in my heart?
  • Have I mutilated myself through any form of sterilization?
  • Have I encouraged or condoned sterilization?
  • Have I engaged, in any way, in sins against humanlife such as artificial insemination or in vitro fertilization?
  • Have I participated in or approved of euthanasia?

 

6. You shall not commit adultery.
  • Have I been faithful to my marriage vows in thought and action?
  • Have I engaged in any sexual activity outside of marriage?
  • Have I used any method of contraception or artificial birth control in my marriage?
  • Has each sexual act in my marriage been open to the transmission of new life?
  • Have I been guilty of masturbation?
  • Do I seek to control my thoughts and imaginations?
  • Have I respected all members of the opposite sex, or have I thought of other people as mere objects?
  • Have I been guilty of any homosexual activity?
  • Do I seek to be chaste in my thoughts, words,actions?
  • Am I careful to dress modestly?

 

7. You shall not steal.
  • Have I stolen what is not mine?
  • Have I returned or made restitution for what I have stolen?
  • Do I waste time at work, school, and home?
  • Do I gamble excessively, thereby denying my family of their needs?
  • Do I pay my debts promptly? -Do I seek to share what I have with the poor?
  • Have I cheated anyone out of what is justly theirs, for example creditors, insurance companies, big corporations?

 

8. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
  • Have I lied? Have I gossiped?
  • Do I speak badly of others behind their back?
  • Am I sincere in my dealings with others?
  • Am I critical, negative or uncharitable in my thoughts of others?
  • Do I keep secret what should be kept confidential?
  • Have I injured the reputation of others by slanders?

 

9. You shall not desire your neighbor´s wife.
  • Have I consented to impure thoughts?
  • Have I caused them by impure reading, movies, television, conversation or curiosity?
  • Do I pray at once to banish impure thoughts and temptations?
  • Have I behaved in an inappropriate way with members of the opposite sex: flirting, being superficial, etc.?

 

10. You shall not desire your neighbor´s goods.
  • Am I jealous of what other people have?
  • Do I envy the families or possessions of others?
  • Am I greedy or selfish?
  • Are material possessions the purpose of my life?

Prayer Before Confession

O most merciful God! Prostrate at your feet, I implore your forgiveness. I sincerely desire to leave all my evil ways and to con-fess my sins with all sincerity to you and to your priest. I am a sinner, have mercy on me, O Lord. Give me a lively faith and a firm hope in the Passion of my Redeemer. Give me, for your mercy´s sake a sorrow for having offended so good a God. Mary, my mother, refuge of sinners, pray for me that I may make a good confession. Amen.

Act of Contrition

O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I detest all my sins, because I dread the loss of heaven, and the pains of hell; but most of all because they offend Thee, my God, Who are all good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of Thy grace, to confess my sins, to do penance, and to amend my life.

Amen.

Or

My God, I am sorry for my sins with all my heart. In choosing to do wrong and failing to do good, I have sinned against you whom I should love above all things. I firmly intend, with your help, to do penance, to sin no more, and to avoid whatever leads me to sin. Our Saviour Jesus Christ suffered and died for us. In His Name, my God, have mercy.

Amen.

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